Love is Alchemy

The idea of changing a base metal into gold, in real life, can only mean the growth of an individual, through the medium of love and acceptance?

Alchemy as some of you must know, was the ancient art of turning base or common metals and substances into gold. Ancient civilisations believed that the elusive substance, also called a universal solvent, would catalyse the components of metals and turn them into gold.

Similarly, there was a great search for the secret elixir of life- which would retain youth.

To date, no one has actually found either of these substances – the universal solvent or the secret elixir. 

Maybe they were looking in the wrong place – a bit like looking all over the house for your keys but they were all the time in your pocket.

The somewhat simple and common key/universal solvent/secret elixir is Love (Lust, Desire, Acceptance (of the dark side of every person) and a bit of Humour. A good formula. Science has proven that falling in love and enjoying a joke releases chemicals and hormones  which can lead to a great sense of well being and enjoyment of life.

People in love eat less, have raging (positively) hormones and consequently look better. People have swung out of depression by falling in love. Better performance at work, increased motivation etc. When they enjoy a joke, they look all the more attractive. Looking better causes an increase in confidence so it is a win-win cyclical situation,one feeding the other.There is some study which proves that people in love show similar brain activity to those who are mentally ill but some of us may agree that love can be quite an enjoyable illness.

Alongwith falling in love one has to be ready for remaining in love with a changing person. Love ought not to be a commodity which you can return to the shop when it no longer quickens your pulse. 

Love, respect, admiration

Ah, love, let us be true
To one another! for the world, which seems
To lie before us like a land of dreams,
So various, so beautiful, so new,
Hath really neither joy, nor love, nor light,
Nor certitude, nor peace, nor help for pain;
And we are here as on a darkling plain
Swept with confused alarms of struggle and flight,
Where ignorant armies clash by night.
-from 'Dover beach' by Matthew Arnold

Many miracles and transformations have taken place quietly in loving and accepting relationships, after that first rush of attraction and passion. People have left bad habits, achieved more and overcome impossible hurdles through the love and encouragement of their loved ones.

Couples who are married for years and live in a sort of lively marriage which has not become a dead habit, will tell you the secret -it is living and letting live. Being able to challenge each other helps keep narcissistic issues in check and going through ups and downs deepens love and concern over the years. Too much complaining and not caring about the Other leads to lack of empathy and concern. Each person in a relationship needs to try and remain creative, do different projects, encourage each other etc. A person who simply broods for long hours and does not respond to the other will soon bring the relationship to a standstill and worse, take it to a split.