Meditative Method

Like a water lily, grounded, looking upwards

Meditative methods are as numerous as there are beliefs and approaches in this world. Most of them will expect that you can still yourself and concentrate on something to calm yourself. If this works for you-concentrating perhaps on a ray of light, or white light or a point on your forehead etc, start this way. Starting any way possible is a good step forward. Meditation has too many known benefits. Hypertension and many other diseases are known to become less problematic-blood pressure and heart rate fall considerably with meditation. Once you have learned to marshall/collect your thoughts, then try the method below:

The best method is to let thoughts pass by, without judging them. You are only an observer. You do not have to act on them. You can say to yourself ‘this is my thought’ but you don’t react. These thoughts might be alarming, disgusting, upsetting…triggering action…it does not matter. They must pass by like an assembly line – where you watch them but don’t exercise restraint or do anything to change them. After some time, gaps will occur. Like the glimpse of sky between clouds. A time will pass and there is no thought. These gaps are restful, the result of lack of judgment and manic pursuing of thoughts. It is the free space in which you will feel liberated, timeless. Savour the gaps. Enjoy them. They will pass and other thoughts will come – things to do, jobs to get back to.

Let thoughts come in now. It is alright now to go back. You have meditated, even if it is for a minute. You will not have to force yourself to make meditation a part of your routine anymore. Your body will like to go to that place again. You can do it anytime, anywhere. It will be an enjoyable restful activity.

At times, you may fall asleep. Some views suggest that it is not meditation of you fall asleep. I say that anything that helps you to go into a deep sleep is a good thing. Clearly, your mind and body needed it !

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I am a psychoanalytic psychotherapist in private practice.